Tuesday, January 17, 2012

feeling stuck.

So, Jack has been eating solids for more than 4 months and I get the feeling it's time to move him on to finger foods. His pincer grasp is still developing, I think, which means he may not be completely ready.

But, in the last month, he's gone from consistently taking 24-27 ounces of formula a day to taking 20-24, on a good day. This means that some days he gets less than 20 ounces. And, he doesn't always polish off his rice cereal + veggies/fruits. And, he used to eat a cup of rice cereal a day, no problem.

I just think it's time.

However, the doctor said to wait until 9 months and for his pincer grasp to develop.

It doesn't make me feel better when I see posts and pictures of other babies that are the exact same age as Jack eating finger foods.

I know. I know. Comparing one baby to another gets me nowhere, but I just really think it's time. In the last few days I've been several over babies (all born within a week of the monster) eating finger foods. Is he behind??

To be quite honest, that's my biggest fear.

But. (again, there's a but) Like I tell myself when my frustration rears it's ugly head, he'll be eating for the rest of this life, why push him into something he doesn't like or isn't ready for? It's way easier to say that than practice what you preach when you feel like your little man is falling behind other babies his age.

Maybe a call to the potentially unfriendly nurses at the doctor's office is in order.

But, before I throw questions to the wolves nurses, I'm asking the blogosphere. What's your advice?

Oh, and before I go ... here's a funny story.

I picked Jack up from daycare today and when I went to his little classroom, he was shirtless. Uhh...??? I thought they'd just finished up changing his diaper or something.

Nope. Turns out he had a little bit of an up-the-back blowout and they thought he didn't have a change of clothes. (Hello, I'm not one of those mothers. He has another set of clothes. Trust me.) So, there he was, shirtless, in the middle of daycare.

Sweet. His first foray into white trashdom.


Gayle said...

Hey Emily,
Love catching up with you guys this way! Just wanted to say its so hard not worry about what and how much your kiddo is eating. I think the best advice I got around this age was that eating foods before one is just practice and not to worry to much about how much they ate. Trust your mommy instinct, if you think he's ready to try finger foods go for it! Hey, it may help his pincer grasp. I found Baby Led Weaning (http://www.babyledweaning.com/) info helpful when thinking about doing finger foods. We did a mix of this and purees since Amelia prefers to feed herself. Your little man is too cute! Can't wait to get the two of them together one day!

Steph said...

hi emily! i can't help but compare my two kids at the same age... elise was very very good with her pincer grasp by 8 months and jack is still not there yet (and doesn't seem to like as many different foods as she did). i give him the opportunity to practice feeding himself if we're having something that he can eat, like a slice of avocado, banana, apple, sweet potato, etc, and smaller pieces like puffs, but it's really more entertainment for him plus an occasional bite. so, here i am to be an example of a baby the same age that isn't quite there on the pincer grasp :) tell jack that jack says hi!

Josh and Lindsay said...

Go with your Mommy instinct - it always knows what is best. I completely understand how hard it is to not compare with other babies. It has been a daily statement in our house - "Jack has been crawling for awhile. Why does Addison not get it." ha. We started Addison on finger foods because she started reaching for her spoon when we fed her. I am totally not ready to give her the reins on feeding herself, hello she is only 8 1/2 months old, but the little finger foods seem to satsify her craving for independence. The rule in our house, she only gets finger foods in her high chair or occassionally in church to put the babbling to rest. He is so handsome! Cannot wait to see you guys again.

Emily said...

I agree with the above ladies! Start him when you think he's ready. Throw some puffs out on the floor for him and just let him play, experiment, and practice with them. Once he gets the hang of it then you can move him on to "real" foods. Avocado, banana, blueberry, peas, and corn were McKenley's first real people finger foods. At this point, she rarely lets me feed her at all!! He'll get there, just follow his signs and let him guide you. He'll pick it up and be chowing down in no time! :)